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					<description><![CDATA[By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC A little over two years ago in March 2020, much of our world came to a screeching halt because of the COVID-19 pandemic. Even during this frightening time many observed clear skies and quiet roads, and soon there was a renewed appreciation for educators, health providers, and the many [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><a href="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/transformation-lets-not-miss-our-opportunity/go-back/" rel="attachment wp-att-1519"><img decoding="async" class="alignleft wp-image-1519 size-medium" src="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/GO-BACK-195x250.png" alt="" width="195" height="250" /></a>By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC</strong></p>
<p>A little over two years ago in March 2020, much of our world came to a screeching halt because of the COVID-19 pandemic. Even during this frightening time many observed clear skies and quiet roads, and soon there was a renewed appreciation for educators, health providers, and the many folks who kept supplies in our stores and provided services to us all. There was gratitude for the efforts we took to stay connected to each other. I even appreciated the unique opportunities to enjoy theater and concerts online. During this time I found myself seeing, and seeking out, even the smallest ways to appreciate what was good around me as I found opportunities to support those who had greater need than myself.</p>
<p>I found that during this time there was a quietness within, and many took advantage. I certainly did. That first summer (and honestly since then as well), I have found myself undergoing massive personal transformations that have led to more subtle changes in my professional work. During this time, I have also witnessed the transformations of so many others: clients, colleagues, strangers, friends, and family. This has been a time for transformation, and it wasn’t just for us personally.<span id="more-1502"></span></p>
<p>This has been a time of forced change and in that first summer of 2020 we saw the additional challenges of a society undergoing great transformation as racial, religious, gender, and cultural prejudices and bigotry became more apparent to us all, providing the opportunity for systems to be adjusted. New and renewed fears embraced us even as the concerns about COVID-19 continued, creating an increased sense of separation and separateness.</p>
<p>As we learned more about these injustices and inequities, I saw citizens come together for goodness and growth.</p>
<p>Unfortunately over time, this opportunity seemed to be lost because as individuals and as a society we have the tendency to focus on fear and its corresponding hate, judgment, and separation and once again that became the focus for those who try to sell news, products, an idea, or a person.</p>
<p>As this third summer awaits us, we have the promises of easier times together for connecting, enjoying warmer weather, and for working on the many societal and global challenges that are before us. Yet this does not appear to be the focus. Rather, the collective focus is now fatigue instead of transformative opportunity. The collective verbalizes being tired – of waiting, of fear, and of people with differing opinions who are perceived as impinging on their own rights and opportunities.</p>
<p>I know that you are tired. I am too. I never expected to see all these challenges especially since I witnessed so many of this in the 60’s and 70’s and know the stories of my own ancestors and others’ lineages. I thought we were past this. But the truth is, we are not. And my fatigue or frustration only serves as apathy. And apathy will NOT get anything resolved. So, I urge you to join me in waking up and showing up.</p>
<p>Please join me now to take a full breath with a prolonged exhalation to help you, and our collective, to shift away from long-standing ideas, beliefs, and processes.</p>
<p>I urge you to think back and feel back (place your hand on your heart please as you do so) to that time when:</p>
<ul>
<li>the world felt quieter.</li>
<li>you had that deeper recognition of the problems that still are before us, and you were willing to see the possibilities that would lead to societal improvement</li>
<li>you wanted desperately to help us reach the resulting outcome of these changes</li>
<li>you believed in the possibilities of who we are (Who We Really Are) as one collective, and not as a group of individuals out for themselves</li>
</ul>
<p>And as you feel that memory stir in your heart, gut, and soul ask yourself what is needed by you to truly Remember (and Maintain) Who You Really Are so you can dig-in to address these societal and global problems. To minimize future fatigue, be sure to take the time to support yourself. For me it is finding regular time, even during the many possibilities to feel despair and frustration, to return to my heart-space and remember my soul’s purpose. To do this I regularly:</p>
<ul>
<li>meditate</li>
<li>view, or go into, nature</li>
<li>read or watch inspiring stories</li>
<li>connect with those who lift me up</li>
<li>find ways that I can help others</li>
</ul>
<p>Still, I look for ways to support those people or concerns that I know still need improvement with charitable donations or the offer of my time. And if you are in a personal situation where donations of money, services or time are impossible or unavailable that’s okay. Find every opportunity to share a smile when you see friends, family, or strangers. You can never underestimate the power of connecting with another, with your smile, in appreciation of their presence.</p>
<p>Please take one more purposeful breath with me now to assist this transformational shift and to join your heart with the heart of everyone else who feels as we do. It may take time, but we’ve got this!</p>
<p>Namasté (the light in me acknowledges and honors the light within you).</p>
<p><em>If you are interested in reading more articles by Judy Lipson on transformation, check out these articles from May 2020 on <a href="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/transformation-during-coronavirus-opportunities/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Opportunities</a> and <a href="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/transformation-resiliency/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Resilience,</a> and listen to <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntQ3tjyJwz4" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Transformation: 2020 Vision</a>. </em></p>
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<p><em>Judy Lipson is a Licensed Professional Counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders, and those who wish to Remember and Become &#8216;Who You Really Are&#8217;. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@spiralwisdom.net, and visit www.JudyLipson.com for more information.</em></p>
<p>This article is for informational purposes and is not meant to replace medical care.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC I talk to a lot of people &#8211; friends, colleagues, and clients &#8211; and I watch the patterns of conversation. Over the last few months, we have talked a lot about the shift away from social isolation toward finding ease in returning to a more active way of life (while [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><a href="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/coming-out-of-sanctuary/fishing-village-5/" rel="attachment wp-att-1417"><img decoding="async" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-1417" src="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/fishing-village-1-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" /></a>By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC</strong></p>
<p>I talk to a lot of people &#8211; friends, colleagues, and clients &#8211; and I watch the patterns of conversation. Over the last few months, we have talked a lot about the shift away from social isolation toward finding ease in returning to a more active way of life (while maintaining masks, hygiene, and proper distancing as recommended by the CDC). Initially, these conversations were to provide preparation for when that time would come.</p>
<p>Recently, more adults have received their COVID-19 vaccines, and students and staff have returned to school. These conversations have now taken on more of a timely need and an urgency.</p>
<p>Not surprisingly, a number of people are delighted to return to activities and events that are more reminiscent of times pre-pandemic. Others have expressed that they have felt quite comfortable with some, or many, aspects of the life that they have experienced over this last year and are struggling to make the shift.</p>
<p>This article is written for this latter group. If you are one of these people who looks back at this last year with a partial or complete thought of: <em>please don&#8217;t mess with me now! </em>then this article is for you. If you have always (or are now) struggling with general anxiety or social anxiety, this is for you. If you are not personally resonating with this concept, I still encourage you to read it so you can better understand your students, colleagues, friends, and family members. I&#8217;ve also included some tips to help you or them to venture out.</p>
<p>WHAT WE ARE EXPERIENCING</p>
<p>No two people are the same so not everyone will describe it the same way, but here is what I’ve been hearing, and it may not be what you expect. What you probably think is that folks are scared of contracting COVID-19, but actually most people do NOT quote their concern of developing COVID as their primary reason for their reluctance to venture back to activities.<span id="more-1414"></span></p>
<p>Actually, what I find is that many folks are Sensitives (highly attuned to one or more of the five senses) and there is only so much that they feel that they can take in at any given time. This has been a very stressful year with changes in school and work routines, and social and political changes and conflicts. Sensitives are not only dealing with their own experiences of the above, but are also feeling the emotions of the collective which includes their family, workspace or classroom (even on zoom), and society as a whole. There has been a lot to sort and process, all while a pandemic is occurring. Even if you have learned to function in your world, amidst the noise of sensory stimulation and strong emotions, this last year has struck Sensitives in two ways. First, there is more “noise” to process. Second, having to stay home has been a surprising gift to reduce it all.</p>
<p>Let me explain some of the less obvious reasons besides what was mentioned above. Sensitives usually have, or have had, issues with clothing. Society makes a joke about zooming without pants, but that is a welcome relief to many Sensitives. Even the ones who do put on pants feel more freedom to wear comfy clothes than if they were in their school or work settings. Have you heard, “These are my daytime pajamas”? Seriously, many people are wearing sweats or yoga clothes for work and school. As a personal observation I noticed by April 2020 that I couldn’t tolerate any clothing that I felt was binding. My irritability while wearing it was significant, and I realized that it was better to avoid these clothes. Relative calmness resulted.</p>
<p>Many students are reluctant to return to their school buildings. Some of these are kids with social insecurities. They feel that they often do the wrong things, and this has led to teasing and their own subsequent self-judgment. (Please realize that there are adults who experience the world similarly, often because this was their experience throughout their education.) When the world seems like, or has been, a scary place why would the individual want to willingly return?</p>
<p>Sensitives are doing all they can to process all that is happening within and around them. Their bandwidth for tolerating it all has narrowed from pre-pandemic times. They can’t tolerate the thought that they might have to now be in space (literally and energetically) with even more than what they are having to deal with in the confines of their home.</p>
<p>Some others have a history of difficulty with transitions from one activity to another. Others have a history of avoiding any novel activities unless they have a social story of what to expect. (See more on this below.)</p>
<p>WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO RE-ENTRY</p>
<p>The individual might be ‘fearing’ losing the relative calmness, and/or may not want to tempt the fates of previous memories. But part of living this human experience is to adapt, or find equanimity (peace with what is), during the changes of life.</p>
<p>In a recent <a href="https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2021/03/19/vaccinations-bring-post-pandemic-world-closer-why-we-anxious/4767642001/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">article</a>, author Bufka said, &#8220;A few times in the past year I&#8217;ve thought about what it was like for my grandmother who was born in 1901, and all the changes that she saw over the course of her life. We&#8217;re having a compressed version of that&#8230;.&#8221;</p>
<p>If we look at the developmental stages of life, this is exactly what each of us has been doing since we were born. We learned the ways of early childhood and without even realizing it we adapted into our adolescent years where we began to differentiate ourselves from our parents and our societal teachings. We questioned which of these teachings we wanted to maintain for ourselves, by our own choice. As we moved onward through adulthood, we made these same adaptations as we took on jobs, careers, and new friendships and family members. And through it all there were small and large crises to attend to as we learned how to experience the changes and challenges with the greatest ease. Like Bufka says, a lot is being condensed into what has only been a year of time, which is why some may be finding it so difficult to make the shift back into more traditional activities (even with masks, distancing and washing).</p>
<p>RE-ENTRY STRATEGIES</p>
<p>You don’t have to return to your full pre-pandemic lifestyle. Consider taking it one piece or aspect at a time.</p>
<p>Increase your bandwidth of tolerance by practicing good self-care strategies:</p>
<ul>
<li>Adequate rest</li>
<li>Good nutrition and hydration</li>
<li>Movement</li>
<li>Feed your spirit and/or your creative aspects
<ul>
<li>Meditate, pray or daydream</li>
<li>Practice your passions and try a new creative art</li>
<li>Take time to be in nature</li>
<li>Stay connected with friends and loved ones (even if virtually)</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>Decrease sensory input when and where possible</li>
</ul>
<p>Identify the gap and create scaffolding to bridge it:</p>
<ul>
<li>Create and provide social stories for yourself or your loved one. One of the reasons why new experiences feel so daunting is because we don’t know what it will look like. Identify and describe what you will most likely expect.</li>
<li>Practice expanding your comfort level <a href="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/establishing-boundaries/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">energetically</a> and socially for preparation of going back to work, school etc. Since some individuals seem quite comfortable in their current milieu, they might need a significant amount of coaxing. Be sure to meet these individuals where they are. Ridiculing or shaming will NOT help your cause. Identify the small steps that will help them move comfortably from their desire to stay only indoors to engaging in-person once again: for instance, go outside with a mask; next, take a walk down the block with significant distances from others; then walk in public places and learn to move away from others in a calm, efficient manner that doesn’t attract unnecessary attention. Or, take rides in the family car and return to the house; take a ride and go to a public place, then return; take a ride to a specified place after a social story has been created, discussed and practiced.</li>
<li>What space do you need for yourself? Can you create it? Role play with a trusted other, or in your mind, how to keep distance, how to ask for another to mask, or what it will look like and feel like to walk away if that is needed for optimal safety. Remember that you control many aspects of your experience.</li>
</ul>
<p>Practice your previous skills that have been lost during this year away from more traditional routines. Never had those skills? Then this is an awesome time to learn! Find a trusted other, self-help book or professional to guide you through the process with role playing, social stories, and identifying the baby steps to move from present situation to desired participation.</p>
<p>As you approach re-entry, remember that though sometimes <em>different</em> seems uncomfortable or even daunting, it’s only different, not bad or dangerous. Use your strategies to control the narrative when possible, and to adapt your response when needed.</p>
<p>I now offer you this humorous <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&amp;v=pRUls7UiPsg" target="_blank" rel="noopener">video by The Holderness Family</a> that you might find depicts the inner narrative of the reluctant participants in your life.</p>
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<p><em>Judy Lipson is a Licensed Professional Counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders, and those who wish to Remember and Become &#8216;Who You Really Are&#8217;. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@spiralwisdom.net, and visit www.JudyLipson.com for more information.</em></p>
<p>This article is for informational purposes and is not meant to replace medical care.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC A time to build up, a time to break down A time to dance, a time to mourn A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together (From &#8216;Turn! Turn! Turn!&#8217; by The Birds) When I look back at 2020, I primarily see the breaking-down aspect [&#8230;]]]></description>
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<p><strong>By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC</strong></p>
<p><em>A time to build up, a time to break down<br />
A time to dance, a time to mourn<br />
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together</em><br />
(From &#8216;Turn! Turn! Turn!&#8217; by The Birds)</p>
<p>When I look back at 2020, I primarily see the <em>breaking-down</em> aspect that is stated in this lyric. Breaking down reminds us of destruction, which is defined as: <em>the action or process of causing so much damage to something that it no longer exists or cannot be repaired</em>. Though that <em>feels</em> like a really bad thing, and like you, I often felt overwhelmed or distraught during 2020, I realize that the process can have very positive outcomes. We are dismantling the previous paradigms in order to determine what aspects should stay, what should go, and what should change dramatically. I am actually quite thankful for the dismantling of so many of our systems and beliefs, though it was challenging to observe and live through.</p>
<p>2021 has arrived, and now it’s <em>time to build up</em>! It’s human nature to long for the continuation of what was and wait for (or force) its return. I urge you instead to take some calming breaths and think back to the months and years before 2020 when you actually may have longed for some type of change for yourself, for our country, or for the global collective. I encourage you in the upcoming months to look at aspects of your own life and of our global society to determine what practices and beliefs have become outdated, stale, or are now recognized as wrong. Is it time for you to create something?</p>
<p>This may seem like it requires great courage. I believe you have that courage to begin the creation of what you have always sought. Think back to previous events when great change occurred, particularly when it wasn’t originally your idea – this might be a break-up, a job change (or loss), or a move. Whatever that situation, remember how frightened, ungrounded, and lost you likely felt. Then weeks or months later it’s not uncommon to be able to look back on that original event and recognize the silver-lining that resulted.</p>
<p>I believe we are in the midst of one of these situations. All around us we can see the breakdown of our institutions. And that can feel really scary, especially when we don’t know when the process will end, or how it will look.</p>
<p>Besides watching systems change so significantly, it’s all happening during a pandemic. The novel coronavirus, COVID-19, is affecting many people in new ways. New information comes to light, the vaccines are becoming available, but the distribution moves slower than most individuals would prefer. You may find yourself wondering things like: <em>How will this new information affect me? How long will these recommendations last? When and how will my activities alter? When will this end? <u>Will</u> this end? Will my life ever return to normal?</em></p>
<p>Here we are in unprecedented territory! We are uncertain of what is to come, how it will affect us, and how to navigate the entirety of it. I want to encourage each of you to focus on a few concepts as we approach these “unprecedented” significant changes. Let’s start by drawing our awareness to the complexity of the term. The definition of unprecedented is <em>never done or known before</em>. It relates to all the things happening to us and around us. Since it has never occurred before, I don&#8217;t think it is reasonable to assume that there is a distinct roadmap to get through it. I don’t bring this up to frighten, but rather to open your awareness to realizing that your roadmap won’t be found by looking backward.</p>
<p>Here are some considerations as you look within and forward:<span id="more-1373"></span></p>
<p>PATIENCE<br />
Strive to be patient with the process. Focus on being in the present as much as possible. It’s good to see the goals of what we seek and hope for, but don’t get too ahead of yourself. You don’t want to pinch off or stifle opportunities, and you don’t want to freak yourself out focusing on the unknown of what is to come. Stay in the now.</p>
<p>RECOGNIZE IMPERMANENCE<br />
Remind yourself that even though it is <em>this</em> way now, it doesn’t mean it will remain like this. Your emotions can change, the situation can change, the information can change. Things are delightfully impermanent, and this is especially helpful when you’re not thrilled with the current feelings or events. This <a href="https://www.nicabm.com/specific-questions-for-when-a-client-feels-stuck/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">three-minute video by Dr. Lynn Lyons</a> shares specific questions to consider if you feel stuck. This is especially important for kids and teens who have less life experience and thus a narrower perspective, and this is also a great strategy for adults.</p>
<p>CREATE<br />
Create what you desire with as much clarity as you can. Include as many of your senses as possible. Focus on what you hope to see as the end result, and in doing so there is more potential for helping to move it to that outcome. You might make a vision board (pictures and words that represent what you want), journal your narrative, sketch the vision, or dance or write the score for what you desire. Be imaginative and let your creativity flow. Try not to lock in your vision, so you can allow for <em>this, or something better.</em></p>
<p>COURAGE<br />
An interesting aspect that I recently realized about our current experience is that, as stated earlier, we are all facing this unprecedented event. As Dr. Emily Morse reminds us: this isn’t a YOU problem, it’s an EVERYONE problem. As we experience and create something new, and I mean <u>really</u> new, we are for the first time doing so without the benefit of others who can show us the way. Even as adults we have typically had others to show us how – how to play that sport, how to drive the car, how to do this job assignment, etc. We’ve always had direction or training. In our current situation we have multiple professionals, leaders, medical personnel and scientists to inform and work on the big issues, but we still generally have no one to show us how to navigate all of this unknown territory. If you are still feeling lost and afraid, return to the previous concepts. Be patient. Empower yourself by starting to create what you want. Stay in the present. Identify what you know, right now, and include all those things for which you are grateful.</p>
<p>TRUST<br />
Trust the process. Sometimes that means recognizing that you cannot think your way through solutions. I recently realized that sometimes it is better to not try to think my way to resolution or understanding.  I am learning to accept the space that I am currently in, allow for all possibilities, and then I find that I often gently and naturally slide toward the solution. A client described it as ‘from the heart’ and went on to state that this then leads to flexibility, malleability, and nimbleness, as opposed to a rigid response with unmoving expectations. For those of you who prefer sports analogies &#8211; in skiing and other sports, you are taught to let go and fall into the fall because if you are rigid while falling, there’s a stronger likelihood of being hurt. Open your whole self to finding (allowing for) the answer instead of narrowing your expectancy to only a mental solution.</p>
<p>CREATION<br />
Though you and I, and the collective, are still in the breaking-down phase, we are simultaneously in the phase of creation. Guide, facilitate, and affirm your outcome. State your intention with surrender and trust. You and I are intending the womb of humanity. As the song, Turn! Turn! Turn! by The Birds says:</p>
<p><em>To everything (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>There is a season (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>And a time to every purpose, under heaven</em></p>
<p><em>A time to be born, a time to die</em><br />
<em>A time to plant, a time to reap</em><br />
<em>A time to kill, a time to heal</em><br />
<em>A time to laugh, a time to weep</em></p>
<p><em>To everything (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>There is a season (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>And a time to every purpose, under heaven</em></p>
<p><em>A time to build up, a time to break down</em><br />
<em>A time to dance, a time to mourn</em><br />
<em>A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together</em></p>
<p><em>To everything (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>There is a season (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>And a time to every purpose, under heaven</em></p>
<p><em>A time of love, a time of hate</em><br />
<em>A time of war, a time of peace</em><br />
<em>A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing</em></p>
<p><em>To everything (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>There is a season (turn, turn, turn)</em><br />
<em>And a time to every purpose, under heaven</em></p>
<p><em>A time to gain, a time to lose</em><br />
<em>A time to rend, a time to sew</em><br />
<em>A time for love, a time for hate</em><br />
<em>A time for peace, I swear it&#8217;s not too late</em></p>
<p>Join me in embracing the possibilities. Nurture them and create anew. Namasté</p>
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<p><em>Judy Lipson is a Licensed Professional Counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders, and those who wish to Remember and Become &#8216;Who You Really Are&#8217;. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@spiralwisdom.net, and visit www.JudyLipson.com for more information.</em></p>
<p>This article is for informational purposes and is not meant to replace medical care.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC Many of you are finding yourselves encountering corona fatigue – tired of managing protocols, social distancing and the many features of social isolation that have been brought about by this pandemic. And with no complete let-up in sight, folks are tired of continuing the protocols that they had found [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><a href="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/seeking-stability-within/sherry-over-lake-3/" rel="attachment wp-att-1303"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-1303" src="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Sherry-over-lake-2-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" /></a>By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC </strong></p>
<p>Many of you are finding yourselves encountering corona fatigue – tired of managing protocols, social distancing and the many features of social isolation that have been brought about by this pandemic. And with no complete let-up in sight, folks are tired of continuing the protocols that they had found themselves maintaining just days or weeks ago. You, on the other hand, may be an individual who has decided that you still want to maintain certain protocols, and are feeling out-voted or shamed for maintaining your beliefs and practices.</p>
<p>Additionally, many citizens are experiencing a sense of instability, because not only are you dealing with the pandemic, but also the sense of insecurity when observing the seeming collapse (or major changes) to various systems and prior beliefs. For some this is observed, for others of you this is day-to-day living.</p>
<p>We are watching as society asks the necessary questions that could lead to changes in our health-care, insurance and educational systems, and the effect that all this is having on our jobs, businesses, and the economy. We, in the United States, are also being asked to assess the ways that people of color, women, and under-represented individuals have been, and currently are, being treated. Regardless of which “side” you see yourself on, these occurrences can really rock one’s center, further leading to a sense of instability.</p>
<p>These are hard times. And we are reminded frequently, just living through this, of how this is unprecedented.</p>
<p>During conversations regarding these situations, I have encouraged my clients to look within for their stability:</p>
<ul>
<li>What are the values that you hold in importance?</li>
<li>What are the practices that you deem vital?</li>
</ul>
<p>Years ago I heard author Carolyn Myss discuss the roots of peer expectations. Just as a school of fish swim together to feel protected by their numbers (indeed, only the outer ones are most likely to be eaten), so too do people tend to want to be like the group and not stick out. And according to her, this begins with the teachings by our family of origin. However, societal practices actually evolve by thinking differently than others, and exploring these new ideas.</p>
<p>Are you willing to be different from your pod? What experiences have you already had standing amongst others who hold differing viewpoints? A few months ago I read Brené Brown’s <em>Braving the Wilderness</em>.  She writes about the importance of allowing yourself to stand in the wilderness (feeling alone and unprotected), while holding to your beliefs and values. This doesn’t have to be a raucous or threatening stand, and one needn’t feel threatened either. Standing in the wilderness means believing in something enough to allow yourself to feel vulnerable, and not be deterred by others’ actions or words. The result is that you experience your own power – your own stability – and are less likely to need to look outside yourself for your security.</p>
<p>I hope that you will consider these words and practices as you navigate these turbulent times. Remember, you needn&#8217;t always look outside yourself. Your stability is within you.</p>
<p><em>Judy Lipson is a Licensed Professional Counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders, and those who wish to Remember and Become &#8216;Who You Really Are&#8217;. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@spiralwisdom.net, and visit www.SpiralWisdom.net for more information.</em></p>
<p>This article is for informational purposes and is not meant to replace medical care.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC Many professionals describe resilience as the ability of a child or individual to respond successfully to their life&#8217;s challenges. Do you know people who have faced repeated adversity yet live a happy, successful life? People who come to mind include Holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel, Oprah (poverty and abuse) and [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><a href="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/transformation-resiliency/cypress/" rel="attachment wp-att-1285"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-1285" src="https://www.spiralwisdom.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Cypress-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" /></a>By Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC</strong></p>
<p><em>Many professionals describe resilience as the ability of a child or individual to respond successfully to their life&#8217;s challenges.</em></p>
<p>Do you know people who have faced repeated adversity yet live a happy, successful life? People who come to mind include Holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel, Oprah (poverty and abuse) and child abuse survivor Dave Pelzer (author of <em>A Child Called It</em>). Resiliency is an individual’s ability to cope with stress and adversity by bouncing back. Though often assumed to be a magic trait that you have or you don’t, it is now recognized as something that can be developed.</p>
<p>And right now, during the novel coronavirus pandemic, people are talking about resilience with regularity.</p>
<p>The following are appropriate for you or your children:</p>
<ul>
<li>Develop your decision-making skills, assertiveness, independence, impulse control, and problem solving.</li>
<li>Have a sense of humor. Laugh in the face of adversity by enjoying funny jokes and movies.</li>
<li>Improve your confidence by acknowledging what you are good at and valuing your self-worth.</li>
<li>Increase your coping resources such as nutrition, exercise and meditation to reduce stress as well as increase resilience.</li>
<li>Share your troubles with friends and professionals for solutions, resources and perspective.</li>
<li>Be grateful for what you do have and appreciate the simple things in life.</li>
<li>Take action, no matter how small.</li>
<li>Be of service to others. Happiness and well-being are enhanced when you engage in an act of kindness.</li>
</ul>
<p>Recognize that most of life’s hardships are temporary. When you can’t change something outside yourself, even a life-changing event can be viewed differently by changing your internal response to the event.<span id="more-1284"></span></p>
<p>Avoid catastrophizing. See situations for what they are. Byron Katie, founder of <em>The Work</em>, which is a method of self-inquiry, guides people through these four questions to confront their beliefs:</p>
<ul>
<li>Is it true?</li>
<li>Can you absolutely know that it’s true?</li>
<li>How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?</li>
<li>Who would you be without the thought?</li>
</ul>
<p>Resiliency allows you to interact with the environment that is present. Some family members try to protect loved ones from all discomfort and hardship, but the goal is to learn to reduce your unproductive responses while developing tolerance for what remains.</p>
<p>Allow the uncomfortable emotions to be present with your other feelings. Don’t allow the “negative” emotion to overwhelm you into believing that it is the only one present. For instance, you can say, “I’m sad about this <em>and</em> I’m grateful for that.”</p>
<p>Find your courage to be aware of and feel the emotion that you are avoiding. Eckhart Tolle, author of <em>A New Earth,</em>says to look at the pain as an opportunity to learn and problem solve. Tolle explains the tendency to run away from uncomfortable feelings; he encourages people to develop the habit of moving toward the pain. You probably don’t realize that the process of running from your pain &#8211; avoidance, alcohol, excessive work, computer games, or OCD rituals &#8211; actually produces more problems than remaining still to look at what you are avoiding. These negative behaviors never really work and typically create their own harmful effects. The next time you have a desire to begin an avoidant behavior, take a breath and allow yourself to see what you nearly avoided. When you look at it for what it really is, it’s not nearly as frightening as what you thought and your accomplishment will feel great.</p>
<p>Learn to go with the flow. I love the analogy of water flowing in a stream. When water encounters a rock, it doesn’t bang against it repeatedly screaming, “Why are you always in my way?” Instead, water flows around the rock.</p>
<p>Resilient people expect to bounce back, and they also realize that they can often influence outcome. When you can’t influence your external world, you can still influence your inner thoughts. Looking at life from a greater perspective is like looking at a tapestry. The back of that tapestry has knots and threads that represent the life that you live day to day. When looking at the front of the tapestry you can see the whole, the greater perspective.</p>
<p>Trauma therapists recognize the impact of Adverse Childhood Effects (ACEs) on an individual’s ability to recover from a subsequent trauma; and recently the medical community has acknowledged the effect of ACEs on long-term health. Rather than seeing this as a sentence for negative consequences, recognize the importance to address your history and release these traumas. And know that ANY person (not just the parents/caregivers) can become the stable person in that individual’s life, the one who provides the anchor and stability for them to rise above adversity.</p>
<p>It was once believed that resiliency was something you had to be born with, that happiness came from good luck, and those individuals who lived through challenging circumstances and events were destined for additional life drama and a life seen through pessimistic eyes. Not true! Don’t focus on your risk factors; resiliency is based on your ability to bounce back. Develop yours now and live life and your dreams with optimism.</p>
<p><em>Judy Lipson is a Licensed Professional Counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders, and those who wish to Remember and Become &#8216;Who You Really Are&#8217;. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@spiralwisdom.net, and visit www.SpiralWisdom.net for more information.</em></p>
<p>This article is for informational purposes and is not meant to replace medical care.</p>
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